Seventeen (17) Things About Men That Most Women Don’t Know

Do you feel like you truly understand men? Much has been written about how men don’t understand women, but the truth is that there is a whole lot about men that women do not understand as well. The point is not to spark a debate about “the battle of the sexes” or anything like that.

Rather, it is important for all of us to understand that there is a tremendous amount of confusion about what it means “to be a man” in America today. So many of our young men seem lost, so many of our older men seem defeated and depressed, and all over this country families are completely falling apart. We need to understand our problems so that we can start focusing on solutions.


Below, I have shared 17 things about men that most women don’t know. Some of them are funny, some of them are quite interesting and some of them are extremely serious. But all of them say something about where we are as a society today…

#1 When women age, they tend to become attracted to older men. For example, one study found that 20-year-old women are most attracted to 23-year-old men and 50-year-old
women are most attracted to 46-year- old men. But the same is not true when we look at men.
That same
study found that 20-year-old men are most attracted to 20-year-old women and 50-year-old men are most attracted to 22-year-old women.

#2 Many men often put on a bold front, but inside they are not nearly as
secure. At least that is what one survey
found. When presented with the
statement “I am not always as confident as I look”, 76 percent of men chose the response “I feel like this regularly/sometimes”.

#3 If you could look into their hearts,
you would find that most men are not
truly happy. In fact, one survey of 50-
year-old men found that only 12
percent of them said that they were
“very happy”.

#4 Many men still believe in traditional
gender roles. For example, one survey
found that 57 percent of men expect
to always pay on a date. Alternatively,
20 percent believed that whoever
initiated the date should pay, and 18 percent believed that date costs
should be split.

#5 If women are wondering if it has
become harder to find men that are in
good shape, that is because it is true.
According to the CDC, 34.6 percent of
all men in America are obese at this
point. But that doesn’t mean that men are tolerant of weight gain in women.
Sadly, one survey discovered that 50
percent of men would dump their
partner “if they gained a significant
amount of weight”.

#6 Most single men realize that
women consider financial security to
be an extremely important factor in
attractiveness. One recent survey
found that “a steady job” is the
number one thing that women are looking for in a husband, and another
survey discovered that 75 percent of
women would have a serious problem
dating an unemployed man. As a
result of these attitudes, many men
measure their self-worth by the size of their paychecks.

#7 In recent years, the number of men
that are struggling to find work has
reached new heights. In fact, the
inactivity rate for men in their prime
working years (25 to 54) is now at the
highest level that has ever been recorded.

#8 86 percent of men include “having
children” in their definition of success.
For women, that number is only 73
percent.

#9 Many men also wish that they
could spend less time working and
more time with their children. One poll
found that 46 percent of fathers say
that they don’t spend enough time
with their kids.

#10 Men are really dropping behind
women when it comes to college education. In 2013, 60 percent of all
bachelor’s degrees were earned by
women.

#11 Men are much more likely “not to leave the nest” than women. In 2012, an astounding 40 percent of all men in
the 18 to 31-year-old age group still
lived with their parents.

#12 There is a porn epidemic among
men. This is true even among men that
are supposed to be religious. One
survey found that 64 percent of all
Christian men ages 31 to 49 look at porn at least monthly.

#13 An astounding 30 percent of all Internet traffic currently goes to adult websites.

#14 There are more than 4 million adult websites on the Internet, and
they get more traffic than Netflix,
Amazon and Twitter combined.

#15 Society has trained young men to avoid getting married, and this has resulted in an absolutely stunning
decline in the marriage rate. Back in
1920, there were 92.3 marriages for
every 1,000 unmarried women. In 2012, there were only 31.1 marriages
for every 1,000 unmarried women.

#16 The average age at first marriage just keeps going up for men and for
women. At this point, the average age
when a man first gets married has
reached an all-time high of 29.0 years.

#17 Women have always lived longer than men and that is still true today. Women have a life expectancy of 81.0
years and men have a life expectancy
of just 76.2 years.

So what do you think about all of this? Please feel free to share your thoughts by posting a comment below…