Going on a date is a trying experience for everyone. There are nerves on both sides of the table and everyone trying to figure out how to make a good impression. For us there are few things that are always bound to happen at some point on a date. We want him to like us and have this idealized view of how a good date should be. Here are 15 things that we women have done on at least one date
1) Agonize Over the Menu
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So for men looking at the menu probably consists of finding what
looks good and ordering it. For us it’s no doubt that every menu option
is analyzed. Is that one too expensive? If I order that cheeseburger
with extra bacon and grilled cheese sandwiches instead of bread is he
going to think I’m a pig? Maybe I’ll just order a salad…but then I’ll be
hungry later, and I know he’ll notice if I order three slices of
chocolate cake for dessert, you know to share.
2) Try and Be Stylish
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On dates we look completely different than the way we do at home. If
90% of our wardrobe is jeans and Family Guy T-Shirts, we’re going to
wear our one fashionable outfit or go shopping for at least the first
date. We’ll go to that makeup store in the mall and get tips on how to
actually apply that stuff with the brush and look our best. Even for
women who are typically stylish there’s a desire to do just a little bit
better for a date.
3) Worry About What to Say
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For some dates the comfort and ease of conversation comes easy. But
for others there is a thin line between what to say and what topics are
off limits. We all know not to talk about exes or sob stories and yet is
it too much to reveal your boy band obsession or the fact that you own 8
cats? Will he find my job boring or does he think I talk too much?
4)Look For Clues
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If it’s still early in the relationship we’re judging everything,
even if we told ourselves we’re going to keep an open mind this time
we’re looking for things to judge. Did he wash his hair? Does he talk
nicely about his family? Did he talk too much about his mother? We want
someone we’re compatible with and won’t give us more drama than we need,
so at least once we’ve all hunted for some clues to our date’s
personality.
5) Try to Avoid Silence
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Silence is awkward, it’s almost as awkward as talking about your
ex-boyfriend’s prowess in bed in order to fill the silence. On dates it
always feels like everyone around you is talking and having a great time
and then we’re sitting in silence, makes the date feel like a failure.
So we try and fill that silence, sometimes with things that make the
silence infinitely better by comparison.
6)Look for the Spark
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I blame Disney for this one. We all want to feel it and we want to
feel it often. That giddy little feeling in the pit of our stomach that
lets us know this is still going good. So on every date we look for
moments when that little feeling should appear or we try to create extra
romantic moments for it to appear. If its date four and that feeling
still hasn’t shown up then we know it’s probably not going to.
7) Update Their Friends
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Okay so yes using the phone at the dinner table is rude, or during
drinks or really during any part of the date. But if you need a way out
or you just need to tell them how great it’s going or to vent, updating
the friends has happened. Although the least obvious is to use the
bathroom excuse and then do it there so you’re not sitting at the table
staring at your phone instead of him.
8)Fidget
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Yep whether it’s nerves or the fact that we really think that
flipping our hair back ten times during the same conversation makes us
look confident and sexy, we all fidget. The more nerves about the date
the more fidgeting. If we really like the guy then we pull out all the
stops to get rid of the nervous energy and end up looking like we’re
being shocked every two minutes.
9)Bail
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So it’s going bad, really bad. So bad that you’re pretty such
Godzilla charging down the street would be a vast improvement. So we’ve
all done it, come up with the “Oh no my friend’s boyfriend just broke up
with her, she needs me.” Or the “My grandmother fell down the stairs”.
Or for those of us without fear of hurting his feelings “Look I’m just
gonna go
10)Stare
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Well we don’t mean to stare. We’re just trying to be polite and
maintain eye contact..but then our mind wanders or we’re nervous and end
up staring with an expression that looks like we ran into a frying pan.
11)Smile
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We smile. We smile when we’re looking for the nearest exit. We smile
when we’re really thinking whoever we are with really just insane and we
smile when we’re having a good time. If there’s anything we have done
on a date in spades, its smile.
12)Try and Weed Out DealBreakers
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We all have deal breakers, things we will automatically stop the
relationship if any of these are present. Sure there’s the biggies of
drugs and abuse, but then there’s the fact that he thinks the men of
Duck Dynasty should be canonized or that he uses Star Trek quotes in
every conversation. So we always try and plant a few obvious but still
obscure questions or tricks to try and see if any of those deal breakers
are there.
13)Try and Sound Smarter
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It never fails we’re on a date with a guy we really like or a guy who
has seventeen doctorates and you just want to leave a good impression.
But then we start saying things like Turkey is next to Madagascar and
that the square root of 847 is really five, just because we’re trying to
talk out of our comfort zone to sound smarter. Next time we’ll stick to
whatever Jon Stewart talked about last night.
14)Arrive Late
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The truth is as women we don’t always arrive late because we’re
trying to be fashionable or act like our time is more valuable. Nope
it’s because we’re scattered brained, indecisive and can’t figure out
which way is up because we have so much on our minds. Therefore after 30
wardrobe changes, traffic and missing the turn we’ve arrived late for
more than one date.
15)Worn Something Uncomfortable
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Whether it’s those high heels that cause blisters, the bra with the
slightly exposed underwire or the itchy blouse that you can’t actually
get out of by yourself, we’ve all worn something uncomfortable on a
date. Then we inevitably spend the entire date trying to feel less
uncomfortable and still enjoy the date. It rarely works out in our
favor.
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